Weddings are a joyous time when family and friends come together to celebrate the love between the bride and groom and to witness the couple's vows to pledge to live their lives together forever. But it is so much more than that.
It is also a time for all in attendance to reflect upon their own relationships and, in the spirit of the occasion, some are even moved to make the effort to mend long-standing rifts with family members. In honor of the big step the bride and groom are making, and for the sake of family harmony, the decision to let bygones be bygones seems like a good one.
In the case of the Royal Family, this advice would be something to ponder in the days leading up to Prince Harry’s and Meghan Merkle's much-publicized nuptials. In what many consider to be an overt snub of the former Duchess of York, Sarah Ferguson, Prince Charles has excluded her from the private reception he is hosting at Frogmore House immediately following the official reception at Windsor. And this move is causing family discord - in a BIG way!
We all know that in the final few days before the big day, it is an unwritten “law” that no one does anything to upset the bride-to-be. Understandably, her emotions are extremely tender and her feelings can be hurt very easily, putting a damper on the joy she should be filled with.
That is why it is so puzzling that Prince Charles should make such an insensitive move - one that was bound to cause strife within the family - especially those closest to Meghan’s groom-to-be, Prince Harry. It seems as though the Prince of Wales was thinking more of himself than the couple that the day is supposed to be about.
It’s no secret that Prince Charles harbors less-than-warm feelings about his former sister-in-law, Sarah Ferguson, and the reports of an ongoing feud are well-circulated. It is understandable that the father-of-the-groom might cringe at the idea of having someone he doesn’t like participating in his son’s big day. However, shouldn't it be more important to focus on whose day it is?
Prince Charles is well-aware that Sarah Ferguson was a good friend of his former wife, Princess Diana, and that the two grew very close during the course of their often-turbulent marriages.
And since Prince Harry cannot have his own beloved mother with him when he says his “I dos” on May 19th, it has become clear that he has been adamant about including his late mother in as many ways as possible.
It is widely known that “Harry has always maintained a close relationship with Ferguson over the years. In fact, the prince previously went on a ski trip with her in Switzerland and later introduced Fergie to his fiancée."
The Daily Mail reported that its sources told them, “He [Harry] absolutely, 100% wants her there and has told palace officials that in no uncertain terms.
“Of course, the snub did not sit well with Ferguson, and she has apparently been voicing her frustrations about how upset she is over it. Sources have said the Duchess of York is ‘deeply unhappy’ to not be invited and even feels insulted — especially since both of her children are going."
And Prince Andrew, uncle of the groom, is not happy about it, either. Even though he and Sarah have been divorced for over 20 years, the two maintain an extremely close relationship and are known to appear together at many social events. In fact, the two have been sharing a home for many years.
Many people close to the pair are expecting the exes to get back together, officially, any day now. Now that Andrew has moved down to seventh in the line of succession to the Throne, he no longer has to get permission for the Queen to marry.
Harry’s wishes were respected to some degree, though, as it also been reported that “Fergie wasn’t going to get an invitation to any of the events, had it not been for Harry pushing back to state that he wanted her there.” So it leaves everyone wondering why the Prince of Wales refused to extend an invitation to her for the last of the wedding events if it was Harry’s wish that she be there.
It would seem to me that the wisest and kindest thing to do would be to swallow his pride, put a big smile on his face, and welcome the lady who means so much to his beloved nephew, to the intimate gathering at Frogmore House.
It would show that he has what it takes to be King - diplomacy as well as putting the welfare of the Crown above personal feelings.
Meghan has to be feeling the tension as she watches her beloved Harry go through this family turmoil. Let's just hope that the situation is resolved in the next few days so that the air of anxiety doesn't rob the beautiful bride of even one iota of the joy a new bride should be feeling.
As we look ahead to the big day, take a look back at the announcement that stunned the world.